My sociological questions for the week;
Is age a significant factor in adults valuing financial security in partnership?
Are partnerships age preferences motivated by culture/society?
To what extent is gendered income inequity driving age-gap relationships?
How do people discern between partners who want to economically exploit you and those who want to invest in your wellbeing?
Partnerships based in healthy mutual investment go beyond the shallows of economic motivation. However, capital is valuable and I want to know how a financial flex can sometimes indicates a person's partnership mindset. Most cisgender, heterosexual men play into the transactional nature of relationships. Young men believe that women are simply bought with a price, whereas older men invest in their romantic partners...differently.
The prevalent male delusion that women are targeting men for their raggedy ass(ets) is entertaining. The financial or human capital each person brings is their potential investment to the relationship. All investments deserve a payout when the investment accrues, right? That applies across any gender dynamic! I'm griping because I'm being asked to give without being invested in, and this shit is not mutual. Younger men would need a significant amount of wealth to invest before partnership is considered a prize, or for the "high-value male" sentiment to make sense. Rich folks, carry on... but YES, throwing around your capital makes you a target for exploitation. Anyone can get trapped for their reproductive potential.
Be a responsible adult. Protect your sperm and ovum.
Most Black men under 30 lack enough savings to buy four tires at once. Oppression makes it so their earning potential remains unrealized. Potential is not capital. Some men with this unrealized potential manipulate others to sell a delusion of being a provider. Some physically, mentally and financially abuse their partners into submission. I have been abused by weak, broke men who needed to establish dominance in pursuit of control over their lives- which the world has devalued.
I date, I fail, I grind, I gain, I refuse to get pregnant, I get older, and my standards rise. The knuckleheads I dated in my 20s have matured, but their pockets are still shallow. Those who have excelled past brokeass-misogyny are also 10+ years my senior. My friends call out my age preference, but fuck it. I don't use Black men. I believe Black men! I want to love a Black man until he manifests all his dreams. Sometimes, I feel like heterosexual womens' big decision is to either try and rescue an immature misogynist out of poverty or just go Anna Nicole style and prepare to be a hot rich widow.
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